Frequently Asked Questions

How can I get my baby to sleep through the night?
Everyone always wants to know how to to get their baby to sleep through the night. I wish I had a simple answer and a quick fix, but this is an extensive topic. Here are a few of my articles that will guide you in the right direction.

Sleep Training: The Basics
Sleeping Through the Night: My Secrets Revealed
Sleeping Through the Night

When will my baby sleep through the night?
Every baby is different, but most experts say anywhere between 3-6 months a baby is capable of sleeping an 8-12 hour stretch. Read more about that HERE

What age can I start sleep training my baby?
There are some components you can start within the first weeks of birth, while others you will have to wait to implement. Here is more information about When You Should Start Sleep Training.

Why is my baby waking so often at night?
Newborns wake frequently because they need nutrition, this is normal. If your baby is older and still waking often during the night. Here are the Most Common Reasons Babies Wake Up at Night.


How can I eliminate unnecessary night time wakings?
The best way to eliminate unnecessary wakings is by teaching your baby how to fall asleep on his/her own. However a baby goes to sleep is how he/she will expect to fall back asleep when they wake in the middle of the night. So if you nurse or rock to sleep, you can expect that your baby will cry for you to do the same when he/she wakes up in the middle of the night. Here is my article on How to Teach Your Baby to Fall Asleep Independently.


What if I have tried everything on your site and still can't get my baby to sleep through the night? 
Some babies take a little bit longer to sleep train, because of their personality, temperament, or just because parents need a step by step process to help their baby. Because of this, I offer Personal Email Consultations. Your Consultation will include a step by step plan, along with email support from me each night, so that you know exactly what to do. I offer a variety of options, take a look at my Consultation Packages Here. You can also see what others are saying about my services on my Testimonials Page.

What books or program do you recommend to help my baby sleep through the night?
I highly recommend the Sleep Sense Program. I have read just about every book and tried every program out there. The Sleep Sense Program is truly the best program available. When I recommend something, I don't like to only base things on my personal experience. I always look at how successful it is for other parents as well. The Sleep Sense has a very high success rate, with almost 100% of parents being successful at getting their baby to sleep through the night. Over 32,000 parents have purchased this program, so with a success rate that high, that speaks volumes about this program, and the reason I recommend it on my site.  Here is more information about the Sleep Sense Program.


Baby Sleep Training: No Cry Methods

Everyone always thinks that sleep training has to involve letting your baby cry it out. You don't have to let your baby cry her little head off, to get her to start sleeping through the night. I'm going to introduce some sleep training methods and techniques that don't involve leaving your baby to cry alone.

Womb-Like Environment
This is something that works great for very young babies (0-2 months). This is not really a method, but I did want to mention it because a "womb-like" feel, is all some babies may need to sleep well. It works great for young babies because they are so use to being in a warm cozy womb, that they get all confused when they are born, and have a very difficult time sleeping. So what you want to do is create what I call a "womb-like environment".
  • Swaddle your baby nice and snug, a HALO SleepSack works great for this. 
  • Slightly elevate the head of the bassinet, co-sleeper, or crib. Your baby didn't sleep flat in your belly, don't think she's going to love sleeping flat in her crib. You can use a mattress wedge like this one, or you can use folded towels under the mattress. You can also take off one set of legs on one side of the co-sleeper
  • Turn on some womb sounds or white noise . 
  • For newborns, place a rolled up receiving blanket on each side of the body (armpit level), which makes your baby feel as if you are holding her. Since I am a strong advocate of the SIDS campaign and believe a bare crib is best, this is only appropriate for newborns because they don't yet wiggle enough, where this can pose a danger.

Pick Up Put Down (PUPD)

This is a method made popular by Tracy Hog. It involves you picking up your baby when she cries, comforting her, and putting her back down when she calms down. You do this over and over until your baby falls asleep. I know what your thinking, this sounds exhausting. And it can be, but eventually your baby learns that when she cries, you are right there to comfort her. She learns that you won't desert her when she cries for you, and she will feel safe to fall asleep on her own. 


Shush/Pat

This is a technique used to calm your baby down when she is crying. For an "easy" baby, you can use this method alone. For a more difficult baby, you may want to use this in combination with another method. But the general idea is that, you make a shushing noise which mimics the sound of your womb and acts as white noise for your baby. You can also pat your baby, or leave your hand on her back. This lets her know, you are there and you are not leaving. This works great when you don't want to pick your baby up from the crib, to give her a chance to calm down, and learn to self settle.


Getting Rid of "Sleep Props" or Sleep Associations

This method, introduced to me by Dana Obleman creator of the Sleep Sense Program, helps get rid your baby of sleep associations, that cause her to wake multiple times at night. Dana explains that however a baby falls asleep, is how she will expect to fall back asleep when she wakes up in the middle of the night. So if your baby nurses to sleep, she will need to be nursed back to sleep, even if she is not hungry. Since babies have shorter sleep-wake cycles than adults, they wake up many times at night wanting to be put back to sleep by that particular "sleep prop". The sleep sense program teaches you how to get rid of sleep props and teaches your baby to fall asleep on her own.


Drowsy but Awake

A baby that falls asleep in your arms and wakes up in her crib becomes very alarmed. Just as you would if you fell asleep in your bed and woke up in your back yard. So with this method, you lay your baby down "drowsy" or very sleepy, but making sure she is still awake. This does two things. First, it gives your baby the opportunity to self soothe and fall asleep on her own without any "props". Second, it allows her to fall asleep in her crib so that she doesn't get alarmed when she wakes up in the middle of the night. For babies that have been nursed or rocked to sleep, this is obviously not going to be as easy as just laying them down. You are probably going to have to use one of the methods above in combination. PUPD is a good one to add to this.


All of these methods take some time, commitment, and consistency. It's obviously alot easier to close the door and just let your baby cry. I don't know about you, but I would much rather put in some work, than leave my child alone to cry her head off until she falls asleep. Bedtime should be a relaxing, calm, and cozy opportunity for you and your child to connect. Not a dreaded, all out crying disaster.

I have had great success teaching my babies to sleep using very gentle, no tears type of techniques/methods. My first baby was a very stubborn, strong-willed little girl. I thought it would be impossible to get her to sleep through the night when she was already 9 months old and still waking every 2 hours. Her habits were so set, on top of her strong personality. She insisted on being held, nursed, or rocked back to sleep. But I did it, within a week she was falling asleep on her own and sleeping through the night. It's not an easy process, and you have to know exactly how to respond to the crying in order to be successful. Also, every baby is different. So what may work for one baby, may not work for the next. Age too, plays a huge part in the process. You can't expect a 3 month old to respond, the same way a 9 month old will. Some techniques are appropriate for younger babies, but will not work for older babies, or vice versa. I learned that helping your baby sleep, is more than just reading about a few techniques on the web, and trying them out. There are many different components to consider, and it's whole process. If you don't consider your baby's age, development, or temperament, you can use the PUPD technique till your arms fall off and he/she still won't sleep. That is exactly why I decided to offer customized sleep plans along with consultations to help parents with the entire process. I offer tons of advice on my site, but I realized that everyone's situation is very unique. In order to help, a consultation may be the best way I can offer my assistance. Please take a look at my Consultation Packages which are designed to help, no matter your budget.  


Sleep Sense Program Review

When your baby keeps you up all night long and you can’t get more than two or three hours of shut-eye at a time, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart. You’re exhausted. You can’t think straight. Your nerves are completely frayed. In other words, you’re not exactly at your parenting best. And your child isn’t at his or her best, either. When babies and children don’t get a full night’s rest, everything is harder for them. They are fussy and cranky all day. They don’t eat right. Learning basic skills is more challenging. Sleep deprivation starts to take a toll on the whole family. I know I have been there!

I used to have a lot of trouble getting Brianna to sleep well at night. For months, she’d go to bed really late, then wake me up four or five times a night,  demanding to be fed, rocked, or just held back to sleep. It was a nightmare! I love her to pieces, but she was cranky and always tired. I was sleep-deprived and exhausted! And it wasn't getting any better either, this lasted almost a year! I knew something had to be done. Through the midst of all my crazy research on how to get her to sleep through the night, I came across the Sleep Sense site. It's run by  Dana Obleman a professional sleep coach who created the Sleep Sense Program. I started reading and a lot of the things she was saying, described to a T what was going on with Brianna. So I immediately took the free customized sleep plan. I have to be honest, at first I was a little bit weary about this site, and the way it is advertised, sort of "sales pitch" style. But I am so glad I tried her methods. The first night it took Brianna 1 hour to fall asleep on her own, by the 3rd night we were down to 5 minutes. Brianna was a very stubborn and strong-willed 8 month old, with many sleep associations. Dana's methods worked wonders for our family. She uses a very gentle and effective approach. If you have been reading my blog you know I'm totally against CIO. It was really hard to trust any program guaranteeing my baby to sleep through the night, but at least this one will give you your money back if your baby doesn't. I could not believe that within a week my baby who was waking every 1-2 hours was falling asleep on her own and sleeping through the night. Needless to say…we didn't need our money back:)

Before I even purchased the program, I became a fan on Dana's Facebook page and saw a lot of really great comments about her sleep training methods. Those are real people on there and real comments, no marketing and no gimmicks. Each day I read testimonials and success stories, and saw that she’s obviously helped a huge number of families! These families were a real inspiration and the reason I decided to give the Sleep Sense a try. 

Here is a comment a Father...yes a Father posted on her page. It's kind of long but I just had to share.

"Not sure if this is a real email address or not, but I wanted to send a response. My wife and I have been struggling with our 5-month old to sleep (naps and at night) since we brought her home. She rarely slept more than an hour at a time at night and rarely napped for more than 30 minutes during the day. We have been suffering from sleep deprivation for many weeks, and although I think we inherently knew we were doing something wrong, we were simply too tired to think straight.

I signed up for your program yesterday morning after a HORRIBLE sleepless night and forwarded the user and password information to my wife at home. She began reading the material almost immediately and called me in tears saying how many mistakes we've committed and bad habits we've instilled in our daughter. The way you laid it out really made sense to us and gave us hope from the very beginning. We read the material together aloud yesterday evening and put the bedtime routine into action last night.

We're not naive enough to believe all is well instantly, but after a 45 minutes of mixed screaming-crying-sobbing...Abi
gail slept for 12 straight hours: from 7:30 pm to 7;30 am. We woke to my alarm in stunned disbelief. We look forward to daytime naps that will allow us to exercise, clean house, or even relax. We are craving the adult time we can enjoy by putting her to bed earlier and going out for dinner together. But most importantly, we look forward to the happy, giggly times lasting longer and knowing that our daughter is getting her proper rest. As parents, we can tell that she has been WANTING to sleep and was getting frustrated that she COULDN'T!! She didn't know how, and you're helping us teach her
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Your program is not rocket science. The principles are simple and straightforward--as were reading we kept saying "that makes total sense." The value in your program is the way you lay it out, the plain language you use to describe your ideas, and the kind way you point out the mistakes we're making. Thank you very much for making your product available...what a difference a day can make.

This morning, I drank a cup of coffee because I like the taste...not because I needed it to stay awake on the drive to work.

May God watch over you and bless you and your family."

Jonathan and Patricia

This is why I recommend the Sleep Sense program, many other books and programs just sound like gimmicks to me. This is a program created by a real mom, just trying to help other sleep deprived moms. I see nothing but great things being said about this program and Dana Obleman herself. She's helped so many people with a success rate in the 90's in getting babies to sleep through the night. I like to see proof, so that was pretty impressive to me! I don't think any other program could offer that. I would never lose credibility on my blog which has so many loyal readers, by recommending something bogus. I'm just really, really, impressed with this program. I just had to review and share it. Here's more information on the program. It's currently on sale on this page: www.sleepsense.net/share